A description of the book:
Getting married to make you happy? Probably not. Getting married is to help you and your marriage partner understand what a marriage is all about.
A marriage is a process of "two becoming one." It involves many changes and challenges, which the couple have to confront, adapt and cope with. Life is changing every moment, and so is a marriage. You have to change yourself as well as your marriage partner in order to make your marriage happy and lasting. One of the reasons why many marriages do not last is that there is "no accountability" in the marriages, and the couples are living in fancy and fantasy, instead of in reality.
This book shows you with real everyday examples of real people who have no accountability in their careers, money, relationships, sex and intimacy. Get the wisdom to survive and thrive in your marriage.
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A sample from the book:
Meaning of “Love”
“Love” is a big word in all human civilizations. For all
religious disparities, love still plays an essential role in all the world’s
religions. Love plays an important role in human lives, especially living in a
world of conflicts and aggressions.
What’s the real
meaning of the word “love”? Love involves your emotions and feelings. You love
some things and some people. Love, ironically enough, gives you both happiness
and unhappiness. When your love is fulfilled, you feel happy; when that love is
rejected or unrequited, you then feel pain, which becomes the unhappiness.
That, unfortunately, is the reality of love.
Loving others isn’t that easy; loving yourself is sometimes even harder and more difficulty. That’s also
the reality of love.
The truth of the matter is that to truly love someone is very difficult, if not impossible, unless you
love yourself first.
Self-Acceptance
In a general sense, self-esteem
is the positive or negative evaluative perception of self. It‘s a rating of self, based on a partial
assessment of current and/or past traits. Many mental health professionals
claim that achieving higher self-esteem is the keystone of good mental health.
Such claims, however, are dubious at best.
Low self-esteem is self-doubt,
often expressed in not asserting oneself in public or at workplace, and not
pushing past one’s comfort zones.
To love yourself is self-acceptance,
which is accepting who and what you really are—and not who and what you wish
you were (that is, your ego-self). It should also be pointed out that “loving
yourself” and “loving your ego-self” aren’t quite the same. The former is
loving yourself for who you really are despite all your imperfections; the
latter involves loving or craving to be the person you wish you were. “Loving
yourself” means you can love yourself as well as others, because they aren’t very different from you in that they,
too, are as imperfect as you’re. On the other hand, “loving your ego-self”
means it’s very difficult for you to love others, because you want to
distinguish and separate yourself from others; accordingly, others must somehow
satisfy your ego first before you can
love them. That explains why if you’ve a big ego-self, you just can’t easily
and readily love others.
The bottom line: If you can accept yourself as who and what you really are, then it may become much easier for you to accept and love others as who and what they really are.
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