The book description:
The contents of the book:
ONE: ANGER
Emotions
Anger Expressions
TWO: ORIGIN
Your Thinking
Your Identity
Your Flesh
Your Anger
THREE: CAUSES
Who Might Cause Anger
What Might Cause Anger
Conclusion
FOUR: STOPPING
Slowing Anger
Anger Room
Professional Help
FIVE: PERSPECTIVES
Watching Anger
Understanding
Enlightenment
Applications
Conclusion
SIX: TRANSFORMATION
Spirituality
Beginning Your Belief
Transforming Your Belief
Transforming Your Becoming
My Transforming Belief
My “Angry No More” Commitments
My “Angry No More” Commands
SEVEN: THE HELPER
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A sample from the book:
MY WATCHING ANGER
Watching my mother's anger explosion for the first time completely changed my life.
I was in my early teens when I watched
right in front of my eyes how my mother exploded in uncontrollable rage.
Back in those days, my older sister had
some health issue. My mother, through her cousin, found a nurse who was a
single mother in her early forties with a son who happened to be in the same
class as I was in my high school. Out of goodwill, my mother invited the nurse and
her son to spend most of their weekends with us.
Then, my mother found out that the nurse
was having an affair with my father—their love affair took place at my father’s
factory, and my father’s business at that factory during that time wasn’t doing
well.
One day, my mother took me to the nurse’s
apartment, which was on the ground floor of a building. When the nurse opened
the door, she was surprised. Then, my mother began her anger and rage by
shouting and screaming at her, calling her “Old Ugly Monstress!” non-stop. The
nurse stepped back with no response; I then realized that my mother took me
with her to protect herself in case the nurse responded with violence. My
mother then opened all the windows of the apartment. She began to scream and
yell at some students coming out of a school right across the street, saying
that the resident of that apartment was a vicious woman with no morals. My
mother’s shouting and yelling began to attract a small crowd, who came closer
to the windows to look at the inside of the apartment out of curiosity.
Then, I urged my mother to leave the apartment.
After a long while, she did reluctantly, and we left the apartment.
That was my first eyewitness of anger and
rage. It shocked me how my mother, who was always soft-spoken, could scream and
yell like that out of her anger.
My life was changed completely: after that
anger episode of my mother, I never saw my father again for the rest of my
life; his factory business failed, and he went bankrupt. My father’s total
disappearance shocked me with disbelief. Worse, he gave the family no financial
support, leaving the family in poverty for several years until my older sisters
finished their high schools and started working as secretaries to support the
family.
I began to believe it was my mother’s
anger explosion that led to my father’s total disappearance, his business
failure, and the poverty of the family in the following years. So, I swore to
myself that I would never ever be angry in my life.
But “angry no more” was a tall order not
just for me but also for my family.
After finishing his high school, my older
brother wanted to pursue his university education in the United States. After
working for two years and saving enough money, he went to the United States to
pursue his life dream. There was nothing wrong with that. But my two older
sisters were angry at his decision because it was the cultural belief that “men
and not women should support the family.”
So, my perspectives of anger began to give
me a better understanding of “angry no more.”
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