ANGRY NO MORE

The book description:

Everybody is angry, including you. The only differences are in the intensity and the consequence of your anger. No matter what, anger is a destructive and devastating emotion.

The truth is that anger cannot be resolved or obliterated. Your parents, your children, your siblings, your spouse, your employer, your co-workers, and your friends can never make your anger go away, not even your psychiatrists. Just nobody!

Because you are you, and nobody can know how and why you are angry, except you.

This book is about the origin of anger and the perspectives of your anger to help you understand how to overcome anger and rage.

The contents of the book:                 

ONE: ANGER 

          Emotions

          Anger Expressions

TWO: ORIGIN 

           Your Thinking              

           Your Identity

           Your Flesh

           Your Anger

THREE: CAUSES 

              Who Might Cause Anger

              What Might Cause Anger

              Conclusion

FOUR: STOPPING 

              Slowing Anger

              Anger Room

              Professional Help

FIVE: PERSPECTIVES 

          Watching Anger

           Understanding

           Enlightenment

           Applications

           Conclusion

SIX: TRANSFORMATION 

        Spirituality

        Beginning Your Belief

        Transforming Your Belief

        Transforming Your Becoming

        My Transforming Belief

        My “Angry No More” Commitments

        My “Angry No More” Commands

SEVEN: THE HELPER

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A sample from the book:

Your Distortions by Your Subconscious Mind

With the control of your subconscious mind, you might begin distorting  your thinking mind. All your thoughts associated with and created by your experiences are indelibly etched in your subconscious mind, and they might have created your different “assumptions”, “expectations”, and “realities” in different phases in your life. Unfortunately, they’re also your delusions and distortions of your thinking mind.

Assumptions

Any assumption is your “wishful thinking” that something will happen according to your desires and wishes.

Several decades ago, there was the story of a beautiful and sophisticated woman in her mid-twenties who wrote to an investment counseling company to look for a list of eligible bachelors earning at least $60,000 a year. That woman had money fantasy, with her assumption that a rich guy would make her happy for the rest of her life.  According to experts, using marriage as an “investment” is like “investing in a shrinking currency”—imagine the beauty of that woman would be like now in her late fifties, while the $60,000 investment might have grown and expanded over the years.

Predictions

Your prediction is your “foretelling” that something you deeply desire will happen, such as your lottery numbers.

Expectations

Your expectations are your anticipated repetitions of what happened in the past. Negative happenings would generate negative emotions of fear and worry, while positive ones might create hope but also disappointment.

Perceptions

To many, seeing is the most important perception: “seeing is believing.”

In 1997, Richard Alexander from Indiana was convicted as a rapist because one of the victims and her fiancé insisted that he was the perpetrator based on what they both “saw with their own eyes.” But the convicted man was exonerated and released in 2001 based on new DNA science and forensic evidence. Experts explained that a traumatic experience, such as a rape, could “distort” the perception of the victim. So, seeing is not believing.

Your Untruths

So, there’re many “untruths” in your life due to the distortions in your thinking mind:

Marriage

According to the science of happiness, married people tend to be healthier, wealthier, and even more sexually fulfilled than unmarried people.

Yes, a marriage “can”—but not “should”—make you happy. A marriage involves a lot of time and energy to make it work.

The Truth

According to several studies, those who’re wealthy and educated get divorced much more than those who struggle; splitting happens more frequently later in life.

Money

You can’t live without your money.

Can money “buy” you happiness?

The Truth

According to Michael Norton of Harvard Business School, “happy money” is spending money on a concert, a ball game, a dinner, giving you only “memorable” life experiences. But they may also give you regret and remorse later in life, and not lasting happiness.

Parenting

Parenting may bring you satisfaction only if you intentionally want to start a family and raising children.

Economist Andrew Oswald once said: “It’s not that children make you less happy; it’s that children don’t make you more happy.”

The Truth

     The reality is that children create more work for those who love them. The truth is that there’re many young parents, single parents and moms who may not find happiness in bringing up their children, and even causing them anger.

ANGRY NO MORE